What Have I Done? My Husband Was Arrested For An Unintentional, Stupid Accident And We Are Being Torn Apart.

But is it really an assault if it was an accident? I slapped him in bed when he called me a name after he came home drunk. He pushed me off him; I hit the floor. My back was hurting so I went to the doctor. In my upset state I told them what happened and now he has been arrested and faces criminal assault charges. I feel terrible, his job is at risk, my ex says he will go for full custody if our kids are ever in the same home as my husband. The one thing my husband has told our respective children is "never,never hit," and now we are living a nightmare. I respect & admire the intent of domestic laws/procedures, but I feel swept up in the good intentions of others and helpless over this first time event. I told them I did not want charges to be in place, but the county prosecutor told me they would not drop charges. This entire situation is a nightmare, and our pastor tells me there is hope. Is there? Is our family going to be ripped apart as I am going to choose my children if pressed.